You Look Successful. Inside, You Feel Empty.

You’ve built a career that looks solid from the outside.
Responsible. Respected. Reliable.

But somewhere along the way, something vital went quiet.

You’re functioning — but not alive.
Doing what’s expected — but not what’s true.
Carrying a weight you can’t quite name.

This isn’t weakness.
And it isn’t failure.

It’s what happens when a capable, conscientious person lives too long in a life shaped by expectation and conditioning rather than inner truth.

(No pressure. Just space to speak honestly.)

Outwardly, you may still be presenting and performing well.
Inwardly, you might recognise some of this:

• a constant, low-level exhaustion that rest doesn’t touch
• anxiety or numbness that you keep carefully hidden
• imposter syndrome despite years of experience
• difficulty feeling close to the people who matter most
• a quiet sense that you’ve lost touch with who you really are

For many professionals — particularly senior leaders in education — this isn’t about the job alone.

It’s about a lifetime of duty, responsibility and self-suppression finally catching up with the body and the nervous system.

Burnout, anxiety and emptiness are often signals — not that something is wrong with you, but that something essential has been ignored for too long.

“Mid-life” crisis is often misunderstood.

It is not a sign that you’ve failed.
It is an invitation to stop living on borrowed values.

Some people feel called to:

• re-engage with their existing career in a way that is healthier and more aligned

Others feel drawn to:

• step away from a path that no longer fits and explore something truer

There is no single right outcome.

My role is not to tell you what to do —
but to help you listen more honestly to yourself and regain the agency to choose.

I’m Jeremy Tomlinson.

I spent many years as a Chartered Accountant and Finance Director in complex professional organisations, including independent schools.

From the outside, I looked successful.
Inside, I was deeply unwell.

Decades of perfectionism, emotional suppression and chronic stress led to burnout that nearly cost me my life in 2007/08.

That collapse became my turning point.

Through my own long journey of therapy, coaching and trauma-informed work, I learned to understand the deeper patterns that had shaped my life — and how to unwind them safely.

Today, I work with professionals who recognise themselves in that story and are ready to live with greater honesty, vitality and self-respect.

My approach is relational, trauma-informed, and grounded in real senior professional and education-sector experience.

I bring together:

• Somatic trauma-informed coaching
  Working with the nervous system to gently unwind chronic stress, anxiety and old survival patterns.
• Transformative coaching & parts-based work
  Helping you understand — rather than fight — the inner strategies that once kept you safe but now keep you stuck.
• Executive and education-sector insight
  I understand the cultures, pressures and unspoken expectations of senior professional life, particularly in schools and universities.

This work is not about fixing you.
It’s about restoring wholeness.

This may be right for you if you are:

• a senior professional in education, whether academia, finance, legal or business management
• competent, conscientious and inwardly exhausted
• questioning the life you’ve built — quietly, and often alone
• open to deep, whole-person change rather than quick solutions

It may not be right if you are looking for:

• performance coaching alone
• rapid behavioural hacks
• someone to tell you what decision to make

Based in the UK. Working online with clients internationally.

Many men carry this emptiness in silence for years.

If you’ve learned to cope by staying strong, capable and self-contained — and something in you is quietly struggling —

If something here resonates, the first step is simply a conversation.

This is a calm, no-obligation space to:

• speak honestly about where you are
• explore what’s calling for change
• sense whether working together feels right

You don’t have to do this alone.

This is not the end of the road.
It’s the moment you stop pretending.

(No pressure. Just space to speak honestly.)